At the end of March, I asked the question When is Enough…Enough? regarding my daughter and her experience with school bullies. It was the end of the third quarter marking period. I requested a conference and scheduled it for the beginning of April. The fourth grade teacher called me and due to conflicting schedules, we had the conference over the phone. I was prepared to ask tough questions.
I started the conversation informing the teacher that my daughter dislikes school. The teacher did not hear me correctly and said, “I am glad she likes school.” I had to repeat the statement “No, she dislikes school and often does not want to go”. I made sure to mention that my daughter likes the teachers and the office staff (she does). The teacher seemed surprised and saddened that my daughter did not like school. The teacher commented that my daughter engages in classroom activities and learns from all teaching platforms.
I asked the teacher for her impression of my daughter in relation to her peer group. No surprises here…my daughter relates better to adults than other kids (she is an only child). She is nice to the other kids but often will seek out conversation with adults rather than her classmates. The teachers and staff only say good things about my daughter. The teacher further explained that this particular fourth grade is not a “welcoming” group (lovely).
I told the teacher about the name-calling, pushing, and mean behavior. I reported an incident in the recess yard when my daughter was grabbed. A boy four inches taller and at least twenty pounds heavier grabbed her wrists and tried to push her against the wall. My daughter was able to perform a simple wrist release to escape from his grasp. The bullying behavior is not acceptable. She agreed.
As the conversation ended, the teacher mentioned that my daughter was more mature than her classmates. She said that in a few years the other students…”They’ll catch up.”
I did not find these words very comforting.
What could happen until they do?